[HPforGrownups] Hermione's Reaction to... Was: Re: Harry's first Kiss (is it a smoke screen?)

[Grace Choung (Youngy Pak)]

No: HPFGUIDX 106030

 

> Mayeaux45:
> > Hermione is known for accepting people as they are (Ron and 
> > Harry included), even though she might have a great dislike 
> > for them. I don't think she would go through the "trouble" 
> > of trying to get Ron to change( or even Harry for that matter).

> Del replies :
> Except that she does. She offered the boys *homework planners* for
> Christmas, how much more loudly could she have stated that she
> expected them to change ?
> Moreover, it's very common for people in love to consciously accept
> their loved one in their entirety, but to reject some parts of 
> their personality unconsciously. 

Mayeaux45: Once again, only when it comes to academics is Hermione 
aggressive in her attempts to *help* the boys, not *change* them.  
And are you referring to Ron being in love with Hermione or vice 
versa.  Because even some die hard R/Hr shippers say that the love 
seems to be *one-sided* (mostly on Ron's part). 

Youngy wrote:
 
Hi, I am mostly a lurker here, but I could not help but respond. I would have to disagree with your comment, though I understand where you may come from. Hermione may think she is "helping" them by giving them homework planners (and if I recollect correctly, planning homework time, and other day events for them) but can you really say that it is "helping" another person by telling them what to do with their time and how to do it (regardless of the intention)? To me that seems indicate an unconscious need to change things/people's way of doing things or way of thinking. I can understand where Hermione is coming from because I do that too sometimes, but when you grow older you realize that you have to let people do things their way even if you don't think it is "efficient" or "correct" way of doing things because it can come off as being controlling or bossy --- and people in general (having minds of their owns) don't like to be bossed around, regardless of a good intention (do you like it when your parents tell you how to do things? Not really, but you know they do it because they care about you and do it with your best interest...usually neway)
 
 
~Youngy