[HPforGrownups] Re: SHIP: Harry and Cho and question about book 6 and seven

[Mrs.) Lee Storm (God Is The Healing Force]

No: HPFGUIDX 100497

| From: vecseytj
| Sent: Tuesday, June 08, 2004 17:57 PM
| In the lastest on-line chat, JKR said that "It" was never going to
| work out for Harry and Cho and it was better it ended now. (you can
| find the queston answer on Mugglenet.com.  Under chat room
| discussions).
|
| 'Cause I have to say after I read OOP I kind of thought that Harry and
| Cho might still have a chance but, Jo says no.. Cho and Harry are
| done.

[Lee]:
Honestly, I really don't think Cho and Harry would/could possibly
work..._really_ work.  Reason, Cho definitely has not really come to terms
with Cedric's death.  Until she does, if she does, then she'd be able to
have a proper relationship.

At this point, and it's not uncommon in RL, Cho's looking to Harry to fill a
void.  He's her gateway, as it were; through him, Cho can relive Cedric's
life and death...again and again, constantly being reminded and not really
able to move on with her live to a state of acceptance and then growth.
Unfortunately, as I said, this happens in RL, too; let's say a cop gets
killed; the cop's wife starts to gravitate to the partner of said cop who
witnessed the occurrence.  Wife may think she loves partner; partner does
what he can.  However, there probably can't really be love; there's too much
linkage with a past that's unbelievably difficult for both of them.

In the same way, Cho, who I don't think is stuck-up or anything, has to move
on.  Yes, she's hurting...a lot! But linking up with Harry may, in fact,
harm rather than help the healing process.  Harry, after all, can't be
objective; he was there first-hand and has his own dilemmas to work through.

I can understand both characters in OOTP.  You've got a hurting Cho, seeing
someone in Harry who can (if he would) talk her through the Cedric thing;
but she needs to move on and can't.

You've got Harry who was there at Cedric's death, relives it in horrible
nightmares that force him to cry out in his sleep (OOTP Chap. 1), and is
dealing with, what he feels right now, are more pressing issues.  His
interest in Cho was genuine; he really wanted to be her boyfriend.  But he
was totally unprepared for the mindset she was in.  Her constant tear-jags,
all the refs to Cedric, etc.

And I don't know if Cho was really jealous of Hermione in the romantic
jealousy way.  I think Cho's actions--choosing Madam Puddyfoot's coffee shop
because she had gone there with Cedric, comparing Harry to Cedric,
etc.--indicate, at least to me, that she wanted to try and talk through the
whole thing again.

I can see where both Harry and Cho did the wrong things, said the wrong
things; that's a given.  But the actions make sense to me when I try to
examine where their heads are, each expecting something that the other
can't/isn't-ready-to give.

Seriously, I'm not trying to do an analytical treatise! <Grin>  But I do
love in-depth character analysis.  Guess it goes back to my interest in
psychology.

Cheers,

Lee :-)

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