Who is the adult (Was: Who's to blame for Occlumency?)

[klmf1]

No: HPFGUIDX 100789

Actually, the one thought that keeps coming to my mind is that the 
real person at fault here, and no one (at least that I've 
observed....I may not have caught all the posts) is Dumbledore and his 
poor judgement on how much to divulge to Harry from the beginning.  

Harry respects DD, indeed it can be said he loves him, and consciously 
or subconsciously sees him as a father figure and a source of security 
and stability in his life. But all through the OotP Dumbledore has 
markedly *avoided* any meaningful contact with Harry.  Indeed I have 
to admit to feeling for Harry every time DD failed him emotionally and 
can't blame Harry for his anger and frustration. DD repeatedly failed 
him when Harry needed him most. Had DD explained his actions and 
reasonings to Harry from the beginning, either directly or through 
someone Harry *likes, trusts, and respects*, Harry probably would have 
made better choices on how to act.  What's more, it IS in DD's power 
to implore upon Snape that for the Occlumency lessons to be effective, 
Snape MUST treat Harry respectfully and refrain from demeaning 
comments that frankly only serve to ensure the lessons fail.  Being 
"only 15" does not excuse Harry from bad behaviors but being 15*is* an 
emotionally and hormonally tumultuous period of development. Teenagers 
are inclined to obsess in order to make sense of their world and have 
some sense of control within it, and given to great frustration when 
they can't find good answers or reasons. They crave independence but 
also some kind of guidance whether they will admit to it or not.
It's easy to forget what it's like to be young. 

Karen (who wonders what the heck she was thinking when she read