[HPforGrownups] Re: Who is the adult (Was: Who's to blame for Occlumency?)

[Mrs.) Lee Storm (God Is The Healing Force]

No: HPFGUIDX 100925

| From: klmf1
| Sent: Friday, June 11, 2004 8:50 AM
|
| Actually, the one thought that keeps coming to my mind is that the
| real person at fault here, and no one (at least that I've
| observed....I may not have caught all the posts) is Dumbledore and his
| poor judgement on how much to divulge to Harry from the beginning.
|
| Harry respects DD, indeed it can be said he loves him, and consciously
| or subconsciously sees him as a father figure and a source of security
| and stability in his life. But all through the OotP Dumbledore has
| markedly *avoided* any meaningful contact with Harry.  Indeed I have
| to admit to feeling for Harry every time DD failed him emotionally and
| can't blame Harry for his anger and frustration. DD repeatedly failed
| him when Harry needed him most. Had DD explained his actions and
| reasonings to Harry from the beginning, either directly or through
| someone Harry *likes, trusts, and respects*, Harry probably would have
| made better choices on how to act.

[Lee]:
Yes, indeed...even a letter or something...even one that would self-destruct
after it had been read to keep it out of anyone else's hands.  But, yes,
something to re-assure Harry that he hadn't ended up on Dd's bad side, so to
speak, which was what Harry was afraid of--that he had somehow offended Dd.
<Sigh>  But, Dd did admit to making mistakes; no doubt, that was one of
those.

[Karen continues]:
| What's more, it IS in DD's power
| to implore upon Snape that for the Occlumency lessons to be effective,
| Snape MUST treat Harry respectfully and refrain from demeaning
| comments that frankly only serve to ensure the lessons fail.

[Lee]:
Well, Dd could try, and may have...we don't know.  But Even Dd said there
were scars that ran deep and, possibly, all the emploring in the universe
wouldn't be able to really effect a change.

[Karen]:
| Being
| "only 15" does not excuse Harry from bad behaviors but being 15*is* an
| emotionally and hormonally tumultuous period of development. Teenagers
| are inclined to obsess in order to make sense of their world and have
| some sense of control within it, and given to great frustration when
| they can't find good answers or reasons. They crave independence but
| also some kind of guidance whether they will admit to it or not.

[Lee]:
Add to that, the emotions of the Voldebeast coming into his being, already
charged up, and the combination is lethal.

Like I had said in one of my first posts, we've got Harry going through the
teen hormone charge, Volde's emotions charging him more, people he trusts
being vague or distant or not really communicative... Hey, I'm not a teen
and I'd probably be going nuts!  It's a big blow when someone to whom you
look for some support, understanding or assurance is suddenly just not
providing that.

[Karen]:
| It's easy to forget what it's like to be young.

[Lee]: Sometimes, yes. <Sigh> And when one looks back, one doesn't want to
have to admit to having the tendencies of teens. :-)

Cheers,

Lee :-)
(Who refuses to grow up!) :-)

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