[HPforGrownups] Re: Ghosts / Hermione & parents /

[Mrs.) Lee Storm (God Is The Healing Force]

No: HPFGUIDX 102491

Ah--we come to the crux of the matter...semantics!

| From: Shaun Hately
| Sent: Tuesday, June 22, 2004 19:55 PM
| Hmm... maybe people have misunderstood what I mean when I say
| 'estrangement', but I can't think of a better word.

[Lee]:
I always see estrangement distancing as well as losing ability to
love...estranged spouses, etc.  I see more a situation where a separating is
occurring.

Let's say you've got an average-intelligence parent who has a super-genius
daughter.  That little gal is going to find herself separating from the
parent, drifting, perhaps, into a world of intelligence which the parent can
try to understand but can't really.  And, so, there's a separation...but I
wouldn't call it an estrangement.

You're right, Shaun, we do see the word in different lights.  According to
my dictionary, the word estrange means: "To alienate the affections or
confidence of." So, again, I don't see an alienation of affection here.
|
[Shawn]:
| Estrangement does *not* necessarily mean people's love for each
| other diminishes. It can mean that, sure, but it doesn't have to.

[Lee]:
See above.

[Shawn]:

| I'm not, for a moment, suggesting that Hermione doesn't love her
| parents, or vice versa. If she didn't love them, she probably
| wouldn't care about them understanding she is a prefect - but her
| life is different from theirs, in a way that they cannot
| understand. It's a different world, with different rules. And that
| is likely to create barriers even in the most loving family.

[Lee]:
Same can be said for kids who go to college and the parents who might stay
back on a rural farm never having done the college thing.

I tend to think the word "detaching" holds here more than "estrange", but
I'll take a look in the dictionary, if I have more time.

Right now, I really should stop typing and put a brace on my right
hand...that derned tendonitis...but, of course, I'm too stupid to do the
sensible thing. <BEG>

Cheers,

Lee :-)

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