Harry's questions/abuse

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 Siriusly Snapey Susan wrote:
> 
> In fact, that's one of the things folks have pondered around here 
> before.  WHY/HOW is it that Harry & Tom, both with crappy 
> upbringings, could have ended up going such different paths and 
with 
> such different belief systems?  Regardless of the answers to those 
> questions, the fact that Harry behaves altruistically and Voldy 
> behaves evilly [wd?] does NOT mean that Harry wasn't bullied or 
> abused.

 The "the fact that Harry behaves altruistically and Voldy 
 behaves evilly" question may be answered as simply as two different 
methods of control.

  Abused children when they grow up seek power and control over what 
has happened to them.  They either can become abusers in turn, 
making sure they are in control and the abuse does not happen to 
THEM, ie Tom/Voldemort trying to run the world, becoming so powerful 
that no one can harm him, that he is in fact in charge of 
everything. 

    Or, they can become Harry, controlling the abuse by protecting 
everyone possible FROM abuse. What was called his need to "save 
everybody" is possibly quite true.  He does feel the need to protect 
and save, becoming the protector he had wanted, needed, yearned for.