[HPforGrownups] Re: Harry learning from Snape (was: stopper death)

[annegirl11 at juno.com]

No: HPFGUIDX 114502

Dzeytoun said:
> I'm sorry SSS, but your attitude on this subject approaches being 
> reprehensible.  Harry DOES NOT have to prove anything to Snape.  
> SNAPE MUST BE THE ONE TO CHANGE.  If he can't do it, then the 
> situation will just have to stay as it is.  Justice is MUCH more 
> important than efficiency or peace.

Susan isn't excusing Snape's behavior and she isn't saying that Harry is
the one to blame. In a perfect world, Snape would realize the errors of
his ways and change. And he'd apologize to Harry and they'd skip together
through a field of posies. But that's not going to happen. Snape isn't
going to change. But for the sake of the Order and Harry's best interest,
Harry needs to find a way to get out of the cycle of bad stuff between he
and Snape. Since Snape isn't going to change, the only way Harry can
improve HIS OWN situation is for his reactions to Snape to change. 

Part of adulthood is learning how to interact with difficult people. You
can't always work with people you like. It's best if you can find a way
to express to the person that their behavior sucks, but that's not always
possible. (Especially between a student and teacher.) Sometimes the best
way to get along with a rotton person is to not react to that person's
bullshit. Just let it go. If Harry didn't feed into Snape's assholeness,
Snape wouldn't have an excuse to keep doing it.

Aura

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