Wizard's Death Rituals

[Hannah]

No: HPFGUIDX 113365

> gelite67 <gelite67 at y...> wrote:
> Also, it's always bothered me that Harry never seems to think 
about his parents on Halloween, the day that they died.  I know that 
he thinks about them at other times, but it just seems odd to me.  
Most people who are old enough to understand what the anniversary of 
a death is acknowledge it in some way.

Luckdragon replied:
> I find that odd as well, particularly when he attended Nick's 
deathday party on Halloween. It drives me crazy that he does not 
seem more interested in his parents as so many adults around him 
knew them. He doesn't show any interest in what they did, where they 
lived before hiding at Godric's hollow, etc; but I suppose it would 
give too much away that is meant to be revealed at a later time.

Hannah now:  I agree that his lack of curiosity does seem odd - 
especially since he's generally quite a curious person in other 
respects.  The thing which is also odd, is that none of the adults 
around him who  knew Lily and James ever offer him information.  The 
most he gets is some sort of vague mention of what nice/decent 
people they were, and that he looks like them.  But they never seem 
to talk about little irrelevant things - what they enjoyed, what 
their jobs were, funny anecdotes...

I suppose the root of the problem is that Harry doesn't ask 
questions about his parents because he finds it hard to cope with 
and becomes emotional.  When he does get to talk about them, he 
often becomes upset, and he doesn't like to show that in front of 
people.  Also, I think he worries that asking is somehow 
inappropriate, or that he will distress the adults, who knew and 
still grieve for his parents.  And vice versa, Hagrid, DD, 
McGonagall, Lupin etc. don't offer much information because they are 
worried about upsetting Harry/ becoming upset themselves.
Hannah