Wizard's Death Rituals

[gelite67]

No: HPFGUIDX 113383

- Hannah now:  I agree that his lack of curiosity does seem odd - 
> especially since he's generally quite a curious person in other 
> respects.  The thing which is also odd, is that none of the adults 
> around him who  knew Lily and James ever offer him information.   
<snip> they never seem 
> to talk about little irrelevant things - what they enjoyed, what 
> their jobs were, funny anecdotes...
> 
> I suppose the root of the problem is that Harry doesn't ask 
> questions about his parents because he finds it hard to cope with 
> and becomes emotional.  When he does get to talk about them, he 
> often becomes upset, and he doesn't like to show that in front of 
> people.  Also, I think he worries that asking is somehow 
> inappropriate, or that he will distress the adults, who knew and 
> still grieve for his parents.  And vice versa, Hagrid, DD, 
> McGonagall, Lupin etc. don't offer much information because they 
are 
> worried about upsetting Harry/ becoming upset themselves.
> 

Angie replies:
Harry definitely doesn't like other people to see him upset.  I think 
that stems from 10 years of repressing emotions because of the 
Dursleys.  And of course, boys are generally more closed with their 
emotions than girls.  It's not like they died in an accident; they 
were murdered.  I'm sure the adults are at a loss as to how much to 
tell him.  DD's reluctance to tell him about the prophecy is a prime 
example.  

Cheers to Hagrid for giving Harry the photo album at the end of his 
first year.  At least Harry has progressively learned more about his 
parents --although it not so much by asking about them or adults 
really volunteering information.  I hope JKR reveals more about 
James's maturation and his courtship with Lily.  Harry's having a 
difficult time coping with the "arrogant" James and being told by 
Snape that he just like him.  Perhaps I digress, but in another post, 
I wondered if it would be possible for DD to extract Harry's memories 
of his parents that he can't recall and store them in a pensieve for 
Harry to go through later.