Ginny VS Harry

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Del wrote: But the real problem, for me, is that JKR meant MUCH more 
than
implication. She meant us to KNOW that Harry and Ginny love each 
other
very much. The scene where Harry splits up with Ginny makes sense 
only
if the readers care about the relationship, if they know about it, if
they know how intense it is, how much of a sacrifice it is for Harry
to propose to end the relationship, and how selfless it is for Ginny
to let Harry go. Except that by the time I got there, I knew NOTHING
of their relationship, I sure had NOT realised that it was supposed 
to
be The Real Deal. So the scene fell horribly flat, and Harry 
*telling*
of his deep love for Ginny came out as typically very bad writing. 
Not
at all something I would expect from JKR.

now Sarah: I agreed with almost everything you said in your last 
post, except for the part that Harry and Ginny loving each other 
very much.  I my opinion, the melodramatic break-up was typical of 
teenage romances, especially someone's first romance.  I remember 
when I was a teenager, everything was so melodramatic.  I was SURE I 
was in love, when I now realize I was only in like, play acting at 
the real thing.  In my opinion, this is the first time Harry has 
felt the way he has, so these feelings are going to be overwhelming, 
and seem to be much more than they really are.  Harry and Ginny 
don't interact much, and we hear more about Harry fantasizing about 
Ginny (mainly teenage snog fantasies at that), but nothing about him 
wanting to spend time with her because of who she is.  I felt that 
this was more like a first love, rather than a one true 
love/soulmate situation.  I also felt that the break up scene was 
more of a saying good-bye to what could be, rather than what could 
have been.  The years comment really only makes sense if Harry meant 
for the years into the future, because, really, he was obsessed with 
Cho.

My main problem with the Harry/Ginny relationship is that I do feel 
that Rowling meant for their relationship to be a soulmates one, 
which just did not get translated onto page.  Especially since we 
don't see their interactions, we only hear about them.  Right now, 
it seems that Hermione and Ron are his soulmates, not Ginny.  And I 
still haven't seen why Ginny is so ideal for Harry.  Everything 
about her is all heresay.  Everything we're told about her is from 
third sources, and not from actual interactions or "on-screen" 
time.  I cared more about the Harry/Cho relationship than I did 
about the Harry/Ginny one.  I still don't feel that Ginny is 
anything more special than Cho or Parvati, or any other pretty girl 
at Hogwarts.  I feel like I've seen more interactions with Pansy and 
Draco than with Ginny and Harry. And Harry's feelings for Ginny 
seemed force, in my opinion.  We didn't see Harry fall for Ginny 
over the summer at the Burrow.  And he didn't have feelings, hidden 
or otherwise, for Ginny in OotP.  So their relationship fell flat, 
emotionless.  The only way I can make sense of their relationship is 
to speculate on it.  (For example, my theory that Harry is pushing 
all of his strong emotions away, such as his grief for Sirius and 
his feelings over the prophecy, and his emotions towards Giny are 
the only emotions he allows himself to feel.  This makes Ginny into 
a life-line of sorts; Harry is hanging onto his feelings for her, 
not onto her as a person.)