SHIP: Remus/Tonks
guzuguzu
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Thu Aug 4 05:53:39 UTC 2005
No: HPFGUIDX 136369
--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, Lissa Hess <drliss at c...> wrote:
>
Lissa:
> Like Del, I've done the begging thing. More than once. And
y'know what? It didn't work. At all. In fact, quite the
opposite. Any respect the guy might have had for me went right out
the window. And that's what makes me cringe about the Remus/Tonks
relationship. Now, granted, I'm not trying to get a werewolf to go
out with me.
guz:
I had a slightly different interpretation of what was going on in
the hospital scene between Lupin and Tonks. I don't believe they
were talking about dating. I believe that they already had had a
relationship of sorts, and what they were talking about was taking
it to the next level: either a more serious relationship, or even
marriage. Tonks aleady knows Lupin care for her-- the "begging" is
not "please love me".
Lissa:
>But I can't make that hospital scene resonate with my real life
experiences, especially since we have NO hints about Remus's
feelings.
guz:
Up until that point, we don't, that's true. However, up until that
point, "What's up with Tonks" is a mystery subplot/ red herring. It
is also serving the narrative purpose to drive home the point
(emphasized by Harry's problems with Occlumency) that emotional
states can greatly affect one's ability to do magic.
> There's no foreshadowing in OotP, and there are places for it.
<examples snipped>
guz:
This is completely true, and it would have been nice had there been.
However, I think OotP was overly long as it was, without adding
another subplot about second-level characters.
Lissa:
> They treat each other as colleagues and I'd certainly believe
friends, but not anything special.
guz:
Yes, in OotP. That changed for me when Hermione explained that Lupin
had tried to help Tonks confront her survivor's guilt. I also
believe that this is when the Lupin/Tonks "relationship" started--
relationship meaning either a physical one of sorts, or just
expressing their mutual feelings for each other. And very soon after
that, Lupin backed away. Because when Harry arrives at the Burrow,
Tonks is already depressed and already talking to Molly about it
(though we don't know what "it" is at the time), and I really can't
believe she is this upset because Lupin simply turned her down for a
date!
Lissa:
The only real clue in my mind is he's not married and legal, and
> so's she. And when JKR spoke about it in the interview, she
seemed to be expecting it to be a surprise.
guz:
Yes, it was obviously supposed to be a "mystery" subplot. However,
there were a few clues:
1. Molly inviting Tonks to dinner, and her refusing after Molly says
Lupin will be coming. Tonks also refuses the invitation to Christmas
dinner, to be alone instead.
2. Tonks' patronus changing into something Harry thinks resembles a
dog.
3. The biggest hint of all, when Molly gives Lupin "an annoyed look"
when they are discussing the fact that Tonks refused to come to
Christmas dinner. That Harry thinks this has anything to do with
Fleur is a deliberate mislead.
Lissa:
> There isn't much hint of Remus's feelings towards Tonks in HBP,
either, which is why I can't reconcile her begging with his
response. Sure, there's him staring into the fire at Christmas.
But Remus has incredibly valid reasons to be depressed at that
point:
<reasons snipped>
guz:
Yes, yes, and yes-- I agree with all of these. However, right after
it says that Lupin is staring into the fire, we get the lyrics to
Celestina's love song. That's not an accident.
Lissa:
Is it any wonder the
> poor guy is depressed? And when Tonks does come up, Molly
corrects Remus as to her whereabouts. If Remus had corrected Molly,
I'd've been much more suspicious.
guz:
And here's where our interpretations differ. For me, this was the
explanation of what was going on. And also it implies that Remus
knows that Molly knows what is going on, too.
Lissa:
> But the lack of any feeling or any hint from Remus about Tonks is
what makes my reaction go from the grin I got from Fleur's reaction
to Bill to cringing and recommending Tonks read "He's Just Not That
Into You." I know Remus is a private person, and yes, the books are
from Harry's POV, but if the author wants me to believe that Remus
loves Tonks, I need to be shown, not told.
guz:
I think the fact that Lupin and Tonks have discussed it "a million
times" and that both Molly and Arthur know what's going on, is a
pretty strong indicator that they are talking about much more than
dating. People generally do not discuss "a million times" and get
advice from a married couple on whether or not they should date. And
Lupin's reasons, "too old, too poor, too dangerous," are more
reasons why they shouldn't get married, then as to why they
shouldn't have a fling. And, in my opinion, if we interpret this
hospital scene as "Tonks has been asking Remus out on a date for a
YEAR, but she's not his type, and he's too nice/wimpy to tell her
that straight out," then that really does make Tonks, Lupin, and
Molly all look incredibly pathetic.
Lissa:
There are ways to do it, and it doesn't have to be big. Heck,
all it took me to buy Fleur and Bill was an interested look from her
and a typical little brother wisecrack from the twins.
guz:
I do understand this feeling. But, if you consider (1) that the
Tonks subplot was intentionally designed to be a mystery/red
herring, and (2) that it's possible that we are supposed to
interpret the Lupin/Tonks relationship discussion to be on the topic
of marriage as opposed to dating, then would that help sell the
relationship to you?
guz
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