The books are not about rape.

[vmonte]

No: HPFGUIDX 136777

Del wrote:
IOW, "use your imagination the way I want you to". Sorry, doesn't work
like that. That's precisely why I wish JKR had TOLD us what was going
on between Harry and Ginny: so I wouldn't have to use my imagination,
or at least I would have guidelines to use it.

Rizza wrote:
"I mean, this is HARRY we're talking about. If you can atually picture
him treating someone he deeply cares about in such a way, then you're
undermining, as well as underestimating his character."

Del replied:
Both my abusers loved me, cared about me, and wanted the best for
me... 99% of the time anyway.

By the time I was 14, I had known for a long time that the most
innocent-looking person can be a sexual predator. I have a child now,
and I'm keeping my eyes open on *everybody* - including my own family.
I know all those people pretty well, I know they all love my kid, they
all care very deeply about him and they all want the best for him. But
they are NOT above suspicion - NOBODY is. Not even me.

vmonte:
Del, I'm sorry about what happened to you, but you need to step back
a little. You and I know that Harry is not a sexual predator--at
least I think you don't? The books are not about you, or me, or
anyone else. And it's ok to feel upset because your ship did not come
true. Everyone on this site has come up with theories that have
turned out to be wrong, at least I did, and I think that's ok.

But it also seems to me that JKR is a VERY moral person and that she
is trying to teach children some great lessons in her books. Imagine
a book that teaches children to value family, friendship, and to be
brave in the face of danger; to have tolerance, learn how to forgive,
and expect the best in people. There is no way that JKR would make
Harry a rapist or an abuser.

You're right that Merope should not have used Tom Riddle Sr. in the
way that she did (and she paid for it didn't she?), but to accuse
Harry? Come on?

I understand that you feel like you didn't get enough of Harry-with-
Ginny to make it real for you, but it's another thing to start
inventing scenarios that are just not there.

Vivian