Why does there have to be ralationship abuse and rape??

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No: HPFGUIDX 136778

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "delwynmarch" 
<delwynmarch at y...> wrote:
> Rizza wrote:
> "I mean, this is HARRY we're talking about. If you can atually 
picture
> him treating someone he deeply cares about in such a way, then 
you're
> undermining, as well as underestimating his character."
> 
> Del replies:
> Both my abusers loved me, cared about me, and wanted the best for
> me... 99% of the time anyway.
> 
> By the time I was 14, I had known for a long time that the most
> innocent-looking person can be a sexual predator. I have a child 
now,
> and I'm keeping my eyes open on *everybody* - including my own 
family.
> I know all those people pretty well, I know they all love my kid, 
they
> all care very deeply about him and they all want the best for him. 
But
> they are NOT above suspicion - NOBODY is. Not even me.


Rizza replies:



Most of my childhood was spent enduring every type of abuse you 
could think of, you name it I went through it, yes including sexual 
abuse. So I comprehend you perfectly well when you say anyone can be 
a predator, which means Harry could be, *IF* JKR had written him 
that way, but she didn't. It's not because he's still a teen, 
because if you're going to grow up to be an abusive adult, you can 
have abusive tendencies as early as your teenage years, sometimes 
even earlier. 

I can see you're determined to believe the worst because you've 
experienced the worst, and so think it's possible of anyone. I do 
think you could be more open-minded, and perhaps a little bit 
logical about this. I mean, it's one thing to have those 
implications about a minor character we hardly know, but we don't 
need to imply anything about Harry's character, especially something 
as big as this. We've had six years to get to know him and have been 
in and out of his mind more times than anyone can count. He's not an 
abusive person in the least. The end.

Rizza