Why does there have to be ralationship abuse and rape??

[delwynmarch]

No: HPFGUIDX 136773

Rizza wrote:
"I know everyone here is allowed to speak their minds and express
their own oppinions, but I can't help feeling stick to my stomach when
I hear certain things. "

Del replies:
I grew up with a sick feeling in my stomach all the time.

Rizza wrote:
"Such as the possibility of Harry being abusive to Ginny while they
dated. I am one of those people who suggested using your imagination
to fill in the blanks in the H/G ship. Yet, I never thought anyone
would go that far."

Del replies:
IOW, "use your imagination the way I want you to". Sorry, doesn't work
like that. That's precisely why I wish JKR had TOLD us what was going
on between Harry and Ginny: so I wouldn't have to use my imagination,
or at least I would have guidelines to use it.

Rizza wrote:
"I mean, this is HARRY we're talking about. If you can atually picture
him treating someone he deeply cares about in such a way, then you're
undermining, as well as underestimating his character."

Del replies:
Both my abusers loved me, cared about me, and wanted the best for
me... 99% of the time anyway.

By the time I was 14, I had known for a long time that the most
innocent-looking person can be a sexual predator. I have a child now,
and I'm keeping my eyes open on *everybody* - including my own family.
I know all those people pretty well, I know they all love my kid, they
all care very deeply about him and they all want the best for him. But
they are NOT above suspicion - NOBODY is. Not even me.

Welcome to the dark world of sexual abuse. And no, there is no reason
I shouldn't bring abuse into the HP mix: JKR did it first, when she
wrote the story of Tom and Merope Riddle. Merope had the best
intentions in the world, she really wanted to make her Tom happy, she
was NOT trying to hurt him. But she did, she hurt both him and their
child.

Rizza wrote: 
"I also disagree with the "love potion=date-rape drug" theories I've
been reading. I completely understand why a love potion would be
considered to be the magical version of that drug, only I don't
understand why it's being associated with 14 year-old kids in a book
series that's never once had a dialogue about sex, or a mention of the
word itself. Not to say that 14 year-olds don't think about sex, but
this is a bit out of line. "

Del replies:
If the Love Potion had not been used as a rape drug, there would be no
HP series, because there would be no Voldemort. So I don't see how we
can dismiss the danger those Potions represent.

So to answer yourr subject question: why does there have to be
relationship abuse and rape? Because JKR made her whole series depend
on precisely that. No relationship abuse and rape, no Voldemort, no
Boy Who Lived.

Del