The Weasleys' Muggle Cousin, and May/December, combining thoughts

[colebiancardi]

No: HPFGUIDX 144200

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "Ceridwen" <ceridwennight at h...> 
wrote:
 
> With age gap marriages, in a population where people seem to live 
> well past the century mark, the gap between 'May' and 'December' 
> shrinks with each passing decade.  So a Wizarding match between a 
> forty year old witch or wizard, and a twenty year old wizard or 
> witch, would end up being a match between a two hundred year old 
and 
> a one hundred and eighty year old, not too much of a gap at those 
> ages at all.  And, as it seems that the WW is more static than the 
> Muggle world, which has gone through quite an explosion of cultural 
> and technological changes in the past few decades, the twenty year 
> seperated couple still has more common grounds to bring them closer 
> and provide similar experiences, including having had the same 
> headmaster and instructors, overall, at school.
> 
> I don't know of any instance in canon which would remotely support 
> either argument, that the WW would disapprove, or conversely not 
care 
> a bit, about a relationship between a teacher and a student.  It 
> doesn't seem to care that there may be favortism by a teacher for 
his 
> or her own house.  But that can only marginally be considered in 
the 
> same ballpark, since a teacher with feelings for a particular 
student 
> may show favortism toward that student.  The 'eww' factor isn't 
> attested, *as far as I recall*.
> 

colebiancardi: 
well, there is a difference between favorativism and actually having 
sex with a student.  Just a thought.  As far as the age issue goes, 
we do have canon that Remus Lupin, who is only 13 years older than 
Tonks, feels, amongst other reasons, that he is too old for her.  So, 
as I agree that as one gets older, the age differences, hopefully, 
will lessen as the younger person gets more life experiences under 
his/her belt.  Just having the same professors when you were both 
kids isn't really a common ground - I would hope there would be more 
to it than that :-)

However, that being said, I do not find any canon, just as you did 
not find any to dispute teacher/student relationships, that wizards 
marry with huge age gaps - they seem either to be unmarried or they 
marry or will marry within the same age range.  So, I think the WW is 
like the Muggle world in this respect, some in the WW marry in their 
age range, some don't marry in their age range(although we haven't 
seen any of those yet) and some don't marry at all.  
 

colebiancardi(who swears she will not revisit this topic again!!)