[HPforGrownups] Re: Mother Molly

[Tayla]

No: HPFGUIDX 125320


I would have had to snip so much, so I am snipping it all to make my post.  While there have been some interesting perspectives on Molly and her abilities as a parent, I firmly believe that we are being too hard on her.  Nobody is perfect, and I have to say that being a parent is sometimes too hard to deal with at times.  I personally have two children, and have to say that they can drive me absolutely crazy at times!  I can only imagine what it was like for Molly!  I sometimes feel like a chicken with my head cut off just keeping up with my *two*, she's had seven children running around, and trying to keep up with them.  When nerves get frazzled, you can sometimes say and do things that are unfair, we are only human after all.  How many of us have woken up on the wrong side of the bed one morning and bit someone's head off at work because of our foul mood?  Does that automatically make you a bad person, or co-worker?  No, it means you're human, and you're gonna have to eat some crow later on when you have to apologize for it!  We don't know for a fact that she didn't apologize to Ron later for the robe incident, probably because it wasn't important at the time, but here we are, criticizing Molly for a bad choice and calling her a "toxic" mother.  That is not fair of us.

I also don't think that there is anything to support that because two of her children have taken jobs far away that it is because of her methods as a parent.  Children grow up, and their lives take them in different directions.  Just because they didn't stay close to home doesn't make Molly a bad parent.  On the contrary, we should be looking at the accomplishments that these kids have done, despite their limited means!  Bill works for Gringotts!  Taking cannon, that is no easy feat, probably more difficult than working for MOM!  Charlie works with Dragons!  While, and this is my opinion, I have always seen Percy as a status climbing drape ape, he made prefect and held down good grades.  F&G are capable of so much more, but don't apply themselves, that alone is frustrating for any parent.  Ron, although the youngest still seems to be a fairly well adjusted boy, and Ginny, while we didn't see much of her in most of the books (incidentally because she had a huge crush on Harry, and as such would run away in hiding whenever we the readers were around) is also a very strong young girl.  I would be proud as hell if I had that many children that were doing so well.

Lupinlore said it right, in *any* family that has more than one child, there is going to be bickering, harassing, fighting, and picking.  IMO, where Percy is considered, he was too serious in a light-hearted family!  If you ask me, took the "rearing" a little too literally for my liking!  Look at Arthur, *he* even breaks the rules from time to time!  Molly nagged him because of the car, and we wonder where the kids get the ideas that they do?  Percy wasn't keeping things from his family because of a percieved lecture from Molly, more so I believe he was keeping to himself because he didn't want to give F&G any more ammunition to use against him, and Molly would probably slip up at some time.  Percy has always shown that he was embarassed about his family and the way that would affect his abilities to "climb the drapes".  Is that Molly's fault?  No, he took the lessons that he was given, and judging from the fact that his older and younger siblings are adjusted well, it was how *he* took those lessons.

Molly is emotional, and whether or not she is childish (and many women have this tendency) at times, that does not make her the "toxic" monster that some of these posts have tried to make her out to be.

My opinion, I apologize to anyone whom I may have offended.

Tayla