Why Hermione is not right for Harry (Re: Ginny VS Harry)

[hickengruendler]

No: HPFGUIDX 135714

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "mochajava13" 
<mochajava13 at y...> wrote:
 
> Which is why I don't get why on earth Hermione, who has the 
> characteristics of Harry's "perfect girl" in spades, is only his 
> best friend while Ginny is his love interest. 

Hickengruendler:

I snipped the rest of your post. If you read my other posts about 
this topic, you'll know that I agree with your opinion about the way 
H/G is portrayed.

However, I think there's one big reason, why Harry and Hermione are 
not suited, (except for me loving the Ron/Hermione ship). Hermione is 
too serious. Of course she can have fun as well, but not enough for 
Harry's needs, IMO. Harry, after everything he went through and 
probably will go through in book 7, needs someone who could love just 
doing nothing, if necessary, than just enjoying their time. With whom 
he can just laugh, who maybe shares his hobbies (although not 
necessarily all of them, just some), who is able to keep him grounded 
(which Hermione is), but who also nows when to back-off (which 
Hermione does not).

I do think that the Ginny JKR has in her mind, embodies most, if not 
all, of those qualities. I just think JKR did not succeed to bring 
this Ginny to paper. And I think she totally overdid it, when she 
made Ginny the most popular girl in school. (And rather suddenly, I 
might add. If I remember rightly, she went to the Yule Ball with 
Neville, because nobody else asked her).

And yet I can see where you are coming off. Because JKR took the 
time, which the platonic relationship between Harry and Hermione 
needed. Just like she took the time to develop the friendship between 
Harry and Ron and the friendship leading into more between Ron and 
Hermione. That's why it sounds much truer than the supposed true love 
between Harry and Ginny. And that's why I think the last scene 
between Harry, Ron and Hermione in book 6 is very strong and 
compelling, instead of completely melodramatic and out-of-the-blue, 
like the one between Harry and Ginny.

Hickengruendler