SHIP Why Hermione is not right for Harry (Re: Ginny VS Harry)

[dumbledore11214]

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> Hickengruendler:
> 
> I snipped the rest of your post. If you read my other posts about 
> this topic, you'll know that I agree with your opinion about the 
way 
> H/G is portrayed.
> 
> However, I think there's one big reason, why Harry and Hermione 
are 
> not suited, (except for me loving the Ron/Hermione ship). Hermione 
is 
> too serious. Of course she can have fun as well, but not enough 
for 
> Harry's needs, IMO. Harry, after everything he went through and 
> probably will go through in book 7, needs someone who could love 
just 
> doing nothing, if necessary, than just enjoying their time. With 
whom 
> he can just laugh, who maybe shares his hobbies (although not 
> necessarily all of them, just some), who is able to keep him 
grounded 
> (which Hermione is), but who also nows when to back-off (which 
> Hermione does not).



Alla:

Yes, yes, definitely. As I said earlier I have a lot of trouble 
picturing Hermione as "perfect girl" for Harry. Don't get me wrong, 
I find Hermione to be MUCH better written character than Ginny is, 
but at the same time she is my least favorite member of the trio. I 
mean I love them together, but Hermione is definitely my number 
three.

It is wierd though because just as many women on this list ( forgive 
me if my assumption is not correct), I can identify with Hermione in 
her desire to do the very best academically. But I absolutely 
dislike her bossiness, I dislike it SO much.

It is just my personal pet peeve, I don't take well to my friends 
ordering me around. I hated it when I was younger and I   really 
dislike it now. I will listen to advice, I will not listen to the 
orders at al, in fact when I was younger I had an annoying tendency 
to do exactly the opposite thing when was ordered around ( not in 
the work setting of course :-), in my social life setting).


Right, back to Hermione. I absolutely agree with you that she is way 
too serious and Harry, if he survives the series, will need someone 
who would back down and give him the space to heal  if needed, and 
who could laugh with him if needed.


Even after six books, I don't see that Hermione can have much fun 
and I am not just talking with Harry, with anybody.

I am not saying that those are major flaws of character, not at all 
or that Hermione is not a good friend to Harry and Ron, but love 
interest for Harry? I don't agree.

Personally, I am glad that Ron had his fling with Lavender, sixteen 
year old are supposed to have fun, no?

As to Ginny, well...
It is very wierd though because in OOP, I could accept new Ginny 
rather easily based on the idea that Harry simply did not know her 
well before, so I did not have a problem with her "new and Improved" 
personality.

HBP though is such a  different story.

Hickengruendler:
> 
> I do think that the Ginny JKR has in her mind, embodies most, if 
not 
> all, of those qualities. I just think JKR did not succeed to bring 
> this Ginny to paper. And I think she totally overdid it, when she 
> made Ginny the most popular girl in school. (And rather suddenly, 
I 
> might add. If I remember rightly, she went to the Yule Ball with 
> Neville, because nobody else asked her).

Alla:

Yes, I am agreeing with this assesment unfortunately. I like H/G, I 
want then ot happen, but I also think that writing  for them in HBP 
was not good at all and that last scene as you said, fell apart 
totally.

The annoying thing to me is that even though JKR promised to treat 
romance as secondary thing, I know that she CAN do it well even as 
secondary thing, because the last scene between Bill ( who was not 
even talking) and Fleur and Molly had SO much more spark, IMO, than 
any interaction between Harry and Ginny. Sigh...


Hickengruendler:
<SNIP>
 And that's why I think the last scene 
> between Harry, Ron and Hermione in book 6 is very strong and 
> compelling, instead of completely melodramatic and out-of-the-
blue, 
> like the one between Harry and Ginny.


Alla:

Yes,indeed. Their friendship is SO well done. I wish JKR would stick 
with it.

I really hope that writing for Harry/Ginny will be better in book 7. 
I am liking Luna more and more as Harry's potential love interest.

I think I had been talking to Phoenixgod too much :-)

Did I mention that I used not to care much for SHIPS between kids? :-
)


JMO of course,

Alla.