"Some won't like it". The Scar Connection Implications.

[Tonks]

No: HPFGUIDX 130072

I am really getting a bit perturbed over all of this blaming of DD 
for everything.  Harry is coming of age and it is high time he 
starts taking responsibly for his actions and for *his* mistakes.  

Harry is not stupid. He was told and told again by everyone.  He was 
told by those he trusted and those he didn't.  He was told by 
Headmaster, Professor, Friends, Order members and even his God 
Father.  You can not tell me that Harry did not know what he was 
suppose to do and why.  He knew.  Now we can argue that till the 
owls come home and I will say to the very end that Harry *knew*.  

But he didn't do it.  He didn't make a serious attempt to study 
Occlumency.  He didn't want to close his mind.  He was having an 
adventure every night in his sleep and he didn't want it to end.  He 
was curious to see what was behind the door.  (And I don't want to 
hear about `if someone had told him what was behind the door then 
maybe he wouldn't have wanted to see'.)  We have been with Harry for 
years now.  We all know him very, very well. Harry would have 
continued to have the dreams or for one reason or another have 
convinced himself that it was the *thing* to do to keep his 
connection with LV.  When have we ever seen Harry not take the bait 
for an adventure of some sort, an adventure that he thinks that only 
he can save the world or the school or whatever.  Harry is Harry.  
He is an active person.  He is the ego of the trio, the part that 
*does*.  Harry has a remarkable ability at time to deceive himself.  
He doesn't need LV to do that. He can do it by himself.  Remember 
all the times he was wrong?  All the times he thought something was 
one way and it was really another?  

So I say that Harry knew and for his own reasons he chose not to 
follow what he knew to be true.  Harry deceived himself.  And IMO LV 
also worked in Harry's mind to deceive him.  LV does this the way 
the Dark Lord always does this sort of thing, by making his victim 
*think* that what they are doing is for the greater good.  I wonder 
how many of those who later became DE's were recruited by being told 
that they would be doing something noble, something good for the 
WW?  I don't think that most people, wizards or muggles would follow 
the powers of Darkness knowingly, at least in the beginning of that 
encounter.  Harry has allowed the Dark Lord to lead him astray.  
Maybe it would have helped if someone had explained it to Harry, and 
maybe not.  Harry understood when he told Snape "maybe LV would make 
me do things?" and Snape says "maybe".  That is clear enough for 
me.  

Harry is a free agent as are we all.  He has free will.  All another 
person can do is tell him, advise him, even plead with him as 
Hermione has done.  They can't make the decision for him.  He made 
that decision himself.  I did not like to see Harry make the wrong 
choice like he did.  It upset me a lot, but I do not need to project 
the blame onto someone else.  Harry did not kill Sirius, Bella did. 
Harry is not responsible for Sirius' death, Bella is.  But Harry did 
something very, very stupid.  He made a serious mistake.  It would 
not have matter if the Virgin Mary appeared to him and explained 
everything.  He would still have done the same thing.  He made a 
mistake and someone died.  It is hard to face this.  It is hard for 
Harry to face this and it is in some respect even harder for us the 
readers to accept this.  But it is what it is and we have to face it 
and so will Harry.  Sure DD is going to try to take the blame, what 
do you expect him to do?  He is trying to soften the blow for Harry, 
but DD doesn't fool me for one minute.  I know who is responsible 
for what and I will not project blame on DD for something that is 
not his.  You can disagree with me and I am sure many will, but this 
is my opinion on this matter.

Tonks_op