[HPforGrownups] Sirius as Father Figure (was:Re: How Sirius' death suits Dumbledore?...)

[Magda Grantwich]

No: HPFGUIDX 130646

> Alla:
> 
> As JKR said "Sirius loved James like brother and transferred that 
> affection to his son" (paraphrase), which she also calls Sirius' 
> greatest redeeming quality.
> 
> I don't think Harry has nearly enough of that in his life and would
> a have benefitted greatly from it.
> 
> 
> Sherry now:
> 
> I imagine Harry feeling like that. to us, to people like Molly, 
> maybe, Sirius is not an ideal father, but he and Harry loved each 
> other.  If circumstances had allowed the dream of being
> able to have a home together, Sirius could have grown into a great
> father.  There's no doubt Harry would have been loved, and that 
> Sirius would have
> gone to great lengths to care for him and protect him.  


The personal tragedy of Sirius Black was that he was not the man that
Harry needed; he was the man that Harry convinced himself he needed. 
Sirius was lacking in many important ways and Harry was the one who
was the caretaker in the relationship.  

Sirius would not have grown into a great father; he wasn't mature
enough for it, had never gone through whatever personal fire James
had gone through so that he grew up enough to cause Lily to love him.
 Sirius was an adult-boy, someone whose pack instincts lead him to a
my-friends-right-or-wrong outlook.  As JKR said, he was good on the
abstract principles but didn't always transfer it to the daily
realities.  If he liked you, he'd crawl over broken glass for you; if
he didn't like you, well, you'd better not be someone he had any
control over.

Sirius was a tragedy of unfulfilled potential, unfulfilled largely
due to his own weaknesses.  Harry needs much more than to be loved;
he needs guidance and Sirius could not provide it.

Magda


		
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