Magic-Muggle Marriages

[lyraofjordan]

No: HPFGUIDX 142194

lyraofjordan:
> > > But the fact that some witches/wizards can (apparenly) 
disguise 
> > > their magic enough to fall in love with, get engaged and marry 
> > > someone before they reveal they are magical (to their spouses' 
> > > astonishment) suggests wizards are much better at moving in 
> muggle 
> > > society than most of the pureblood wizards we've seen seem to 
be. 
> > > 
> lealess:
> > Either that, or they (1) marry in haste, or (2) use magic's 
little 
> > helper (love potion).
> 
> Ceridwen wrote:
> There's not much to dating, or at least there wasn't when people 
> didn't move in together for a trial or a while.  Sit in the date's 
> car, go to the movies, go to dinner, go to a Muggle sporting 
event, 
> go to the beach, dress the way you see other Muggles of the 
> appropriate sex dressing, get a kiss good-night, and that's it.  
Not 
> a whole lot of need for magic that can't be hidden, if for any at 
all.
> 

Lyra again:

Well, I haven't been on the dating scene for years myself (for which 
I am eternally grateful), but try to imagine the average wizard in 
the situations you've mentioned. Let's try to imagine Ron (a wiser 
and hopefully more mature Ron than we see in HBP) on a date. In the 
first place, he doesn't own a fellytone or know how to use one, so 
he'd have to make all his date arrangements in person, and probably 
have to come up with a good excuse when the girl asked for his phone 
number. He knows nothing about muggle sports and would have to fake 
both interest and knowledge if she suggested a football game 
(because wouldn't it be odd if he didn't know anything about 
football). Probably same with movies. I'd think a girl would start 
being suspicious that something wasn't right already.

Just coming up with topics for conversation would be pretty hard, 
since Ron doesn't read/watch the muggle news, shop in muggle stores, 
watch muggle TV, study the same subjects as muggles, have a mugggle 
kind of job, etc. And any magic-related topics (including funny 
stories about Fred and George, what his dad does for a living, and 
bragging about his Quidditch abilities) would be off limits. Unless 
he did some serious research (or took remedial muggle studies) and 
came up with an extensive "backstory" he'd be lost trying to talk to 
a muggle for an extended period, I'd think.

Then there are Ron's cultural prejudices he'd have to overcome or 
disguise -- referring to doctors as "nutters," for instance.

Controlling the urge do a little magic would seem to be the least of 
his problems in fitting in with muggles to pull off enough 
successful dates to get to the engaged part. It's really about going 
into a totally different culture and convincing a native that you're 
a native too; and that's not such as easy thing to do.

On SoliatryTeen!Snape: I suspect whether he lived in a muggle or 
wizard community, he was a solitary kid. In either case though, 
people would be aware enough of him to think of him as the weird 
kid and tease him when they did see him, which is why I think he 
started inventing curses.