Magic-Muggle Marriages

[Ceridwen]

No: HPFGUIDX 142199

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "lyraofjordan" 
<lyraofjordan at y...> wrote:
>
> lyraofjordan:
> > > > But the fact that some witches/wizards can (apparenly) 
> disguise 
> > > > their magic enough to fall in love with, get engaged and 
marry 
> > > > someone before they reveal they are magical (to their 
spouses' 
> > > > astonishment) suggests wizards are much better at moving in 
> > muggle 
> > > > society than most of the pureblood wizards we've seen seem to 
> be. 
> > > > 
> > lealess:
> > > Either that, or they (1) marry in haste, or (2) use magic's 
> little 
> > > helper (love potion).
> > 
> > Ceridwen wrote:
> > There's not much to dating, or at least there wasn't when people 
> > didn't move in together for a trial or a while... 

Lyra again:
> 
> Well, I haven't been on the dating scene for years myself (for 
which 
> I am eternally grateful)

Ceridwen:
Same here!  I wouldn't be a teen again, or even a young twenty, for 
anything!

Lyra:
> ...but try to imagine the average wizard in 
> the situations you've mentioned. Let's try to imagine Ron (a wiser 
> and hopefully more mature Ron than we see in HBP) on a date. *
(snipping dating scenario)*

Ceridwen:
That's why I suggested that, maybe the early 1960s or before, it was 
probably easier for a witch than a wizard to go through the dating 
scene with a Muggle.  So, I'd suspect that Merope, or Andromeda, or 
Eileen, would have an easier time dating a Muggle boy/man than a 
wizard of the same time period would have in dating a Muggle girl.  I 
wondered if that might be why we see more witches married to Muggles 
than wizards married to Muggles.

Girls weren't supposed to know about sports, and if they did, the 
smart ones were advised to pretend they didn't so the boy could show 
off.  The boy would ask her what she wanted to see, and like the good 
little Muggle who read all the advice to the lovelorn columns, she 
would defer to him.  She didn't have to drive, and she was supposed 
to let him do most of the talking.  If she used magic at all on the 
date, it was probably to repair her make-up.  Playing dumb and silent 
is easy if you're really culturally challenged.

BTW, loved the scenario with Ron on a date with a Muggle!  After (was 
it George?) made that comment about the Muggle girl in town, we might 
see some version of it, only with (George?) instead of Ron.

Of course, nowadays, with people moving in with each other, it would 
be equally difficult for either witch or wizard.  You might be able 
to pull off a Muggle act for an evening, but you're bound to use 
magic, and even get caught, when you're living together.  The WW 
might see fewer cross-over marriages because of that, if the MoM 
doesn't allow disclosure until after marriage.  Or, a lot of 
accidental sightings necessitating Obliviating the partner, or 'wand-
point weddings', not because of pregnancy, but because the partner's 
been Obliviated enough and it would be dangerous to do it again.

And, you would always have to take love into accout.

Ceridwen.