JKR's dealing with emotions - Talking about Death

[Maria Vaerewijck]

No: HPFGUIDX 147562

Kemper now:
> The problem with Harry's coping of Sirius' death isn't that 
> long, Shakespearean soliloquies are absent from the text, 
> it's that Harry isn't shown waking with a tear-soaked pillow
> or something similar to show the reader the depth of Harry's
> loss and how he was hurting silently.  All JKR had to write 
> was a short, simple sentence and it would have been clear.   
> But we didn't get that, we got some movie version of macho
> man-child, stiff upper-lip, "Sirius wouldn't want blahblah..." 
> soliloquy that left the reader emotionally unsatisfied.

maria8162001:
   
  I don't think all the readers were left emotionally unsatisfied, 
IMO, only those who grieve differently from Harry are the ones who 
are not satisfied. I, on the otherhand was very well satisfied, but 
then, I bear my grief the way Harry does, oftentimes, many people 
think I'm unaffected. The silent grievers may show outward strength 
and unaffected emotional expression but that doesn't mean they are 
not hurting. They are hurting just the way other grievers do and 
maybe even more as silent grief tend to go so deep that it takes 
longer to subsides. But one cannot help it. Each individual grieve 
differently. Not even the writer can really express how the silent 
griever feels unless the writer feels the same or experience the 
same and again even silent grievers varry from one another. The 
only signs that you can see and which is consistent with the silent 
grievers are thier unaffected outward emotions and strength. That 
is why most of the time they are being criticized by those who 
grieve differently from them.