Let's talk about Lupin - True Love at Last?

[susanbones2003]

No: HPFGUIDX 146115

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "susanbones2003" <rdas at f...> 
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> > bboyminn:
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> > First, I'm not sure I trust this 'love' just yet. There is a 
strange phenomenon associated with grief, where one tends to fall in 
love with the spouse of the deceased.
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> > So, the point is that I'm not yet convinced that Tonk's feelings
> > aren't misplaced grief. Also, I think they may stem from a certain
> > degree of mothering instinct. Haven't you ever wondered why nice 
> girls> > sometimes fall for the biggest jerks? It's because they 
have an > overwhelming need to 'mother' them. (or perhaps, 'fix' them)
> > As far as Lupin, I think he is a terribly close off individual, 
both socially and emotionally. He has the equivalent of AIDS, 
leprosy,and tuberculosis combined with a figurative equivalent 
of 'elephant mans'disease. He is an social outcast. I think he very 
much thinks that the world is repulsed by him, and is quietly and 
unobtrusively gateful for any human contact he gets. I really don't 
think he feels he deserves love; I really don't think he sees himself 
as worth of such a 'normal' emotion. 
> > 
> > Keep in mind that Lupin has been this 'social outcast' since he 
was 
> a
> > young child. I think his 'unworthiness' is very much ingrained in 
> him,
> > and at this stage, while he is able to feel tremendously 
grateful, 
> I'm
> > not sure if he is capable of feeling love. Still, with the love 
of a
> > good woman, who knows, Tonks may be able to 'fix' him. Though, the
> > odds are not good.
> > 
> > Don't get me wrong. I don't not wish Lupin's fate on him. I hope 
he
> > finds love, and lives a happy successful life, but at the 
sametime,
> > the odds are not good.
> > 
> > So, at this stage, I am grateful for any love that Lupin can 
find, 
> but
> > until we see it deepen and last and until we see it returned, I'm 
> not
> > ready to endorse it as 'true love' just yet.
> > 
> > Just a few thoughts.
> > 
> > Steve/bboyminn
> 
> Jen D writes:
> It occured to me that while we may feel uneasy for Lupin and 
> Tonk's "romance," it isn't a settled, completed thing. JKR leads us 
> down the path on all sorts of things. I contend if it doesn't 
> feel "right" that may easily be a clue that there is more to be to 
be done with it, that JKR may have somewhere to go with it that moves 
> plot along. We are too ready to draw conclusions when I have a 
hunch that almost everything is up for grabs. 
Liked your thoughts Steve. Lupin does seem to have more than his 
share of self-loathing and mayhap she just wants to gow a character 
past that sort of> difficulty. 
> Jen D
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