[HPforGrownups] JKR's dealing with emotions (was Re: The importance of death /Harry and Cedric)

[Karen]

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Lupinlore:

Perhaps it does have to do with emotional styles.  I really don't
know.  But it certainly is true that, surveying a number of different
boards and forums (particularly HPfGU, Sugarquill, and Fictionalley,
along with numerous fanfic chat sites), those three instances in
particular bring a storm of dissent and objection.  What do other
people think is the source of this?

kchuplis:

I suppose it is because of the life experience people bring to the books
with them. Everyone handles things differently and therefore sees this as
"real" or "unreal". I have, I think, demostrated how it is real at least in
relation to my experience, and to some others on the discussion of grief. I
still believe it's perfectly portrayed and if you are reading it closely you
see plenty of grief for Sirius. I mean, it goes on for the rest of the book
in OoTP and half of HBP. I guess I'm not sure what peope expect. Should he
be breaking into tears in classes or something? Honestly, the bigger the
grief the more one shuts down (at least in many people's experience).  I
still don't quite understand why Harry would be raging all over because of
grief for Sirius.  I still see capslock!Harry as dealing with way more than
Cedric's death but rather the reality of terror in his life and too little
information, his age and resentment that he has been handling major
confrontations with LV since his first year and now torture and murder in a
major way and still is kept in the dark and told he is "too young" over and
over as though he doesn't "get" that this is dangerous. Good heavens, if
anyone gets the seriousness of the situation, I think it is Harry. Heck,
even without teenage hormones that would p*** me off. If anything Sirius'
death settles him down because he #1 gets more info from DD finally and #2
comes back to the reality that no one is "safe" so you just handle things as
they come.