JKR's dealing with emotions /Harry's grief over Sirius - realistic or not?

[dumbledore11214]

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Karen wrote:
> >
> <SNIP>
>
> In fact, I'm really becoming more and more
> > amazed at how well she has written about grief without any
overtones.
> >

Lupinlore:
> Chuckle. It truly is amazing how people read totally different
books,
> isn't it? I find her dealing with Harry's grief (or amazing lack
> thereof) to be incredibly poor writing and completely unbelievable,
> especially after that blow up over Cedric. It would have to be a
LOT
> more overt than that to be believable. When Harry came up with
that
> quote about being strong because Sirius wouldn't want him to grieve
> overtly I actually laughed out loud in derision. Talk about
sweeping
> something under the rug for no other reason than to get on with the
> plot!
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Alla:

Lupinlore, I want to try to understand where you are coming from, so,
let's try to look at Harry's grief over Sirius from a little bit
different angle, if you don't mind. :)

Forget for a second about Harry's speech about Sirius to Dumbledore,
pretend that it does not exist for sake of this argument, because if
this scene were the only indicator of Harry's grief, I would
absolutely agree with you - I would call the Harry's grief to be
handled poorly. I mean, I find it a touching bravado of the teenager, 
who lost a loved one and tries to be strong, but honestly, if this 
scene was the only grieving scene in the book, I would not find it 
realistic and would be annoyed too.

My question to you will be, I guess, what do you find problematic in
the other scenes, where Harry remembers Sirius or, I think the better
wording will be "tries not to think about him, but cannot manage it"

In particular, what kind of problems do you see in the scene where 
Hermione tries to talk to Harry about Tonks and her guilt over Sirius 
and where Harry does not want to talk about Sirius? What do you find
problematic in Harry trying to escape the topic of Sirius? I just
find it so very realistic, personally.

What kind of problems do you see in one of my very favorite grieving
scenes, where Harry remembers that Sirius hated glasses, which
Mundungus stole?

Why do you find Harry's thoughts at the funeral to be problematic,
when he thinks that all his protectors are now gone and this is his
fight? I mean not in terms of Hero journey, because that part (Harry
has to stand alone) I find problematic as well, but in terms of
Harry grieving for everybody who died defending him including Sirius?

In short, could you elaborate on why do you think the other scenes of 
Harry's
grief were poorly handled?


Thanks,

Alla