Lupin and Sirius and being single(was:Re: CHAPDISC: HBP 29, The Phoenix Lament

[Raechel]

No: HPFGUIDX 164134

Jeremiah:

Well, first off, I don' think that having friends who are married and
parents makes you spontaneoudly desire to pair-bond and breed. So,
James'influence on both Lupin and Sirius doesn't extend to the alter
or the bedroom.
 
I have had my suspicions that Sirius is Gay. (lol.. ok, not really,
but I think it would be very cool if he was). Come to think of it, JKR
has a lot of single mature men. Dumbledore, Snape, Sirius, Lupin,
Mundungus, Charlie Weasley, Voldemort, Hagrid (ok, he was single until
book 4), just to name the one's off the top of my head. I woudln't
think that all of them are gay (not to mention gay and single) but
maybe there's a portion of JKR's culture that has single men being
acceptable?

What I think it this: Sirius has been through a lot. He was very
passionate about the Order before LV's fall and then he was thrown in
prison. He's not in a place, mentally, to date and has stayed single.
His focus is Harry's well-being. plus, everyone thinks Sirius is a
killer, so who's going to seek him out for dinner and a movie?

Just my 2 cents.

Raechel responds:
All joking aside, I actually think that Sirius might have been gay as
well.  Anyway, I appreciate your thoughts about his life being wrapped
up in the Order, as I was questioning mostly his choice BEFORE he was
wrongly accused of murder and thrown into prison.  

Also, I respectfully disagree with what you said about friends not
influencing each others choices.   It's been my experience that often
   single people hang out mostly with other singles, couples hang out
mostly with other couples, and people with kids hang out mostly with
people who have kids.  It's because they have more things in common. 
Obviously, there are exceptions considering that I'm married with kids
and my best friend is single.  

However, I was thinking about my post after I sent it and realized
that, as you said, there are a lot of single, mature men in these
stories.  In fact, there are a lot of single, mature women: Professors
McGonagall, Sprout, Trewlaney, Umbridge, and Madame Maxime to name a
few.  The more I think about it the more I realize that these
interpersonal relationships would just cloud the story with too many
issues and details. It was probably to save the sanity of the author
and her readers that she chose to eliminate those extraneous,
unnecessary details.

Again, just my thoughts,
Raechel