[HPforGrownups] Lupin and Sirius and being single/Why did Snape remove *that* memory? Was:Takin

[Lynda Cordova]

No: HPFGUIDX 164177

Magpie:
Yes, but you're talking about the way that different lifestyles tend
to throw together marries and singles so that they hang out more
with each other. MWPP became friends as kids when they had the exact
same lifestyle and nobody knew who was going to be a parent and who
wasn't. James then turned out to be someone who wanted to marry the
girl he focused on for years. Why would this mean the other three
(James is the odd man out here) are unusual for not grabbing the
nearest woman and marrying her too? They didn't even have
girlfriends, so getting married wasn't a particularly realistic
choice. Perhaps they might have drifted apart if James and Lily
started being more interested in other couples with children and the
other three hung out more with single people (though given the
James/Sirius relationship I have a hard time believing they wouldn't
have remained friends), but but I don't think it's unusual that
Sirius wasn't married at 23 just because James was.

Lynda:

My best friend and I have known each other from childhood, much as Lupin and
Sirius.  My other friends, with the exception of two are all married. One is
my former college roomie. The others are friends from childhood who have
either remained friends or become friends since we grew to adulthood or
couples with like interests, mostly through a community choir I sing in.
Rebecca and I (my college room mate) have remained friends throughout the
year despite a fairly large disparity in lifestyle as I have with other
friends from childhood because we take the time to remain close. I include
their spouses and kids in my life and they include me in theirs.

As for Sirius being unmarried at 23 when James was, I don't find that at all
unusual. One of them fell in love and married, the other didn't. Neither
situation is strange. They are just different.

Lynda


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