Snape and Lily as friends- How could Harry not know?

[carodave92]

No: HPFGUIDX 172658

Carodave:
THis has bothered me from SS/PS on!  No one ever told Harry anything 
about his parent's childhoods or pasts - he found out about Sirius 
being his godfather and father's best friend by overhearing it in a 
pub; Lupin never told Harry until he had to that he had been a close 
family friend, and not one of Lily's friends ever contacted him to 
say 'I knew your mother'.  It seems natural that on the platform to 
the Hogwarts Express, Harry would have been recognized and 
approached by an old classmate of his parents, (the way that Harry 
and Ron see Draco on the platform in the dreaded epilogue) but it 
never happened.  There were definitely old friends/classmates who 
were tapped by Hagrid to donate photos to Harry's album, but none 
ever contacted him.  Maybe there was an unspoken understanding in 
the WW that it would do cause pain to Harry to hear about his 
parents?  I don't see why.  

Carodave

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "vsacchet" <vsacchet at ...> 
wrote:
>
> Marika wrote:
> >>> I think you're absolutely right about them not being secret 
friends.  She told him that her friends did not understand why she 
was his friend, and he also said he was going to sleep outside the 
Gryffindor entrance if she did not talk to him.  I'm just as 
confused myself why Lupin never told Harry.(Black disliked Snape so 
much that I doubt he would ever say anything "good" about him.) The 
only thing I can come up with is that Snape told Lupin not to tell 
(like he one had asked Dumbledore), and that Lupin agreed because he 
thought that Harry didn't need to know...<<<
> 
> 
> Valerie says:
> 
> This is my first post, so I hope that I am following the rules 
here,
> but I thought it would be interesting to chime in on this issue.
> During the whole "Mudblood" incident with Snape, Lily and James 
were
> not really friends at this point.  If anything, she thought James 
was a show off.  If this incident marks the end of Lily and Snape's
> friendship, it is possible that James and the gang never really 
knew
> how close Lily and Snape had been before Lily and James became 
involved in each other.  The guys all hated Snape already and it is 
possible that Lily just decided to stop defending him because he was 
well on this way to becoming a Death Eater.
>