Lupin and Tonks WAS: I am so happy. There is a gay - Triumph & Tragedy

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"Catlady (Rita Prince Winston)" <catlady@> wrote:
> > I, however, *am* disturbed by it, because what is on the page 
> > looks to me like Lupin never loved Tonks except as a friend, 
> > never wanted to marry her or live with her, never wanted to have 
> > a child, and got dragged into all those things against his (weak) 
> > will. <SNIP>
 
Alla:
> I kept telling myself, oh no, no he just deludes himself and he is 
> just too afraid to give himself and Tonks a chance, insecure, etc.
> 
> Here comes DH. Lupin basically **runnig away** from Tonks, till 
> Harry yells at him, IMO. And Tonks as always runs after him.
> 
> I saw no great love there, when Lupin would rather be with Trio 
> than with his pregnant wife.
> 
> OOOOOOOOO. Duh Alla. Another unrequited love in the series? Tonks 
> of Lupin maybe?


SSSusan:
But.  But.  But didn't canon show us a Lupin who finally **allowed** 
himself to love Tonks fully after Harry yelled at him?  

I mean, yeah, we saw resistance and hesitation and surliness and 
*seeming* lack of interest in Tonks.  But I never took that as Lupin 
*truly* not wanting Tonks.  I took it all as that insecurity & fear 
and even *disgust* with himself for not having made sure Tonks didn't 
become pregnant.  I think Lupin was truly tormented about the 
possibility that Tonks had made a horrible mistake in loving him and 
in the possibility that they could have a child who would either be a 
werewolf or would be horrified to discover that his/her father was 
one.

All of this struck me as very reasonable on Lupin's part.  Would I 
have liked for him to get over it sooner?  Yes.  Would I have 
preferred that Harry not have to call him a coward for him to snap 
out of it?  Yes!  But I took Remus's happiness in being back with 
Tonks and his joy at Teddy's birth as *true* happiness & joy, that he 
had finally *allowed* himself to trust that he wasn't sentencing 
others to a miserable life by virtue of their loving and being 
connected to him.

In short, I don't think it was unrequited love at all on Tonks's 
part.  I think Lupin just felt he could be nothing other than a 
burden or an embarrassment to Tonks and any offspring they might 
have, and he ran from the love he felt for her for that reason for a 
very long time.

Just one woman's view. :)

Siriusly Snapey Susan