Lupin and Tonks WAS: I am so happy. There is a gay - Triumph & Tragedy

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Marianne:
Me, too.  And I see this in a completely different light. I think this
could also be seen as Lupin realizing he has again fallen into the
pattern he's always shown, which is to allow himself to do what makes
other people happy, not necessarily what he wants or thinks is the
right thing to do.  Tonks practically lassoed him in the Hospital scene
in HBP, and everyone else stood around, taking her side, and telling
Remus basically that the way he felt or thought was wrong, that Tonks's
feelings were right. She loved him, and he was bound to accept that and
sail off into the sunset with her, only later allowing himself to voice
his real feelings, that the whole thing was a dreadful mistake.

AM:

Thank you! That's exactly how I see it. I said in a previous post that
Remus and Sirius always looked like a couple to me. Years ago it was a
common belief that homosexuality could be "cured" by getting married
and having kids (and no doubt some still believe it.) The gay person
was pressured relentlessly to conform to society's expectations until
he/she caved into it. He/She then had to accept living a lie and to
make the best of a bad situation.

IMO, after letting his true feelings out and being told off by Harry,
Remus accepted his lot and tried to make the best of it. But he wasn't
happy.

AM