Lupin's behavior (Was: CHAPDISC: DH11, The Bribe)

[a_svirn]

No: HPFGUIDX 180592

> Alla:
> 
> Sure, he had no right to be insulting, but does it matter really? 

a_svirn:
It does, to me. Very much so. 

> Alla:
I 
> mean if I believe that he had a right to say the essense of what he 
> said, does it make that much of a difference if he said the hurtful 
> things nicely or rudely? Those things ARE still hurtful to Remus 
but 
> they are also truth in my view.
> 
> The issue is whether Harry had a right to say that Lupin shoud not 
> leave kid and wife, no? If he said it nicely, you would still 
> disagree, right?

a_svirn:
For one thing, it's not all that he said to Lupin. And you cannot 
call someone a coward – nicely. Because it is not nice. And in his 
case it was *not* true. As to staying with his wife and kid – it was 
for *them* to decide, not for Harry. For Harry was to decide whether 
he wants Lupin or not, but no one had made him Tonk's spokesman. 
Besides, Harry did not say, that Lupin had to talk it over with Tonks 
first. He simply said that Lupin *must* stay with his wife and child, 
which is rubbish – considering that it was all part of war effort, 
and he was a member of the Resistance. 

> > a_svirn:
> > Huh? Harry *is* a third party. And Lupin didn't come to him in 
> search 
> > of family consulting.
> >
> 
> Alla:
> 
> How he is a third party if Lupin offers his services to him?

a_svirn:
He is a third party as far as Lupin relationship with his wife is 
concerned. And the fact that Lupin offered him his help, did not give 
the right to lecture him on this relationship. 

a_svirn