Lupin's behavior (Was: CHAPDISC: DH11, The Bribe)

[a_svirn]

No: HPFGUIDX 180640

> Alla:
> 
> Yes, it is not his business had he never got a reason to have 
> opinion on the subject, I think I am bowing out of this part of the 
> debate at least. It is your opinion that it was not Harry's 
business 
> and in the ordinary course of business I would totally agree with 
> you - it is NOT Harry's business to come to Lupin's house for 
> example and lecture him on his relationship. It is however 
decidedly 
> NOT what happened here, in fact I see what happened here as pretty 
> much the opposite - Lupin coming to Harry's house. Yes, he did not 
> start the subject, but neither did Harry and since Remus was 
awfully 
> quick to offer LOTS of information, I see no reason whatsoever why 
> Harry should have kept quiet if he felt as he felt.

a_svirn:
Because it was unjust? Hurtful? And Harry knew himself at fault when 
he cooled off? 
 
> 
> Alla:
> 
> My friend is about to make what I consider the most idiotic 
decision 
> ever and it concerns her very private and very personal 
relationship 
> with her husband. I would never start the conversation about it 
with 
> her, but if she starts such conversation, OR the third party in our 
> conversation does, I am not going to be quiet. I think my friend is 
> making horrible mistake, I love her like a sister, you think I 
> should just bite my tongue?

a_svirn:
Would open your mouth to fling "partial truths" (which are, 
incidentally, more than a little partial lies) at her? 

> Alla:
> Yeah, nobody asked Hermione to inquire into Remus?Tonks business, 
> but you know what? Remus did not tell her to mind her own business 
> either.

a_svirn:
He would have done better if he did. But he was obviously and 
understandably distraught. An excuse that Harry did not have.