Lupin's behavior (Was: CHAPDISC: DH11, The Bribe)

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> a_svirn:
> Because it was unjust? Hurtful? And Harry knew himself at fault 
when 
> he cooled off? 

Alla:

Well, that's the whole point you see. It was hurtful? Sure it was, 
but whether it was unjust, we disagree upon it. Harry knew himself 
at fault for calling Lupin a name, but he still says I should not 
call him a coward, but he was acting like one.

Would you feel any better about what Harry said had he said that 
Remus was "acting like a coward" instead of was being a coward?

Isn't it all semantics? It is not like Harry thinks that Remus was 
being courageous here and calls him a coward.

 
> a_svirn:
> Would open your mouth to fling "partial truths" (which are, 
> incidentally, more than a little partial lies) at her? 

Alla:

Actually, what I will say or have said already is an absolute truth 
from my POV. My friend was not mad at me, but she certainly 
disagrees that what I said is a complete truth.


So, absolutely from my friend's POV it is a partial truth, if any. 


 
> > Alla:
> > Yeah, nobody asked Hermione to inquire into Remus?Tonks 
business, 
> > but you know what? Remus did not tell her to mind her own 
business 
> > either.
> 
> a_svirn:
> He would have done better if he did. But he was obviously and 
> understandably distraught. An excuse that Harry did not have.


Alla:

Harry did not have that excuse? I thought you said that he cooled 
off? Isn't it the sign that he was distraught at the very least?

But I do not think that Harry has much to excuse himself for, 
whether he was distraught or not.

For being rude, he does, but I remain convinced that Remus needed 
very badly to hear what Harry had to say as future events showed.

Oh, and I also want to address Harry not wanting to have a 
relationship with Remus. You think Harry would not have wanted to 
have a relationship with close friend of his parents when he was 
younger? You think Harry would not have wanted that friend to visit 
him at Dursleys or at least to write him a letter?

Yeah, as Sherry did I stopped wanting Remus to get closer to Harry 
books ago, but I definitely hold it against him that he did not do 
so in Harry's early years.

JMO,

Alla