Changing your looks

[Amy Z]

--- In HPFGU-OTChatter at y..., Amber <reanna20 at y...> wrote:
> 
> --- Amy Z <aiz24 at h...> wrote:
> > Appearance is almost entirely for other people, and the pressure 
not
> > to look a certain way comes from the fact that the people around 
you
> > don't like that kind of look.  If people regularly told you you
> > looked gorgeous without your changing a thing about your looks, 
would
> > you feel the inclination to? 
> 
> Maybe yes, maybe no. I know I would love to die my hair both a 
mixture
> of blond and red. I think this not because people have told me my 
brown
> hair is ugly, or I've gotten no compliments on my hair. I just 
happen
> to think a mix of blond and red would look neat/beautiful and I'd 
love
> to try it. Even if people always told me I was beautiful, I think I
> would still do it (I won't ever though because of work...if only I 
was
> still in college!).  In that case, I'd say that I was dying my hair
> "for myself".

Good example.  Yes, you can definitely try out other looks without 
being motivated by a dislike of the way you look now, or a desire for 
more acceptance/praise.  Hermione's attitude seems to come very close 
to this.

Please don't think I'm so enlightened.  I do dress up for work, even 
though my preferred clothes are old jeans and a sweater.  There are 
expectations . . . I'm happy to say that makeup is not one of them, 
since I hate to wear it.  I have come across a colleague who thinks 
his female colleagues should shave their legs, but the hell with that. 

<g>
Amy