[HPforGrownups] Why Hermione Doesn't Like Ron

[Christina Gross]

No: HPFGUIDX 2415

On 27.09.2000 at 07:05:20 Penny & Bryce Linsenmayer wrote:

>We don't know what Ron said to her before Harry entered the common
>room.  We're limited by Harry's POV.  Depending on what Ron said, it
>could make her reply take on several different meanings.  If he said
>to
>her what he did at the Ball -- "By going with Krum, you betrayed
>Hogwarts & Harry in particular," then her response of "Well, if you
>don't like it, you should have asked me before someone else & not as
>a
>last resort" takes on a far less personal meaning. In that case,
>she's
>saying, "Fine.  If you think it's betrayal of Hogwarts, then great.
>You
>should have asked me earlier yourself.  You only asked me as a last
>resort yourself you know."

But it's being Ron's last resort that hurts her feelings. I don't
think there's any way to put a non-personal twist on that. He takes
her for granted and assumes that nobody else could be interested in
her. If it was just about betraying Harry and Hogwarts (which I think
Ron only said because he didn't want to admit to the real reason for
his disappointment), she could have wiped that away without bringing
the personal note into it. Something along the lines of "That's the
stupidest thing I've ever heard and it's none of your business who
I'm going to the ball with."

>I will NEVER buy the argument that Harry cares for Ron more than
>Hermione.  That completely undermines the Trio's friendship if you
>start
>down that path.  

I agree. Harry cares for Hermione differently but not more or less.  

>Farmer in the Dell, Farmer in the Dell . . . heigh ho the derry o,
>the
>Farmer in the Dell.  . . . .

Can somebody please bridge the cultural gap and tell me what this
means? 

>I agree with Cassandra's post last night about why Hermione is just
>not
>right for Ron.  There's just no way she can be the right partner for
>him.  She is not a background figure.  If *anyone* needs a rather
>meek &
>background figure as a romantic partner, it's Ron 

So Ron's way out of his identity crisis is a little woman who sits at
his feet looking up at him with adoration? If he can't work out his
problems for himself I doubt that is going to work. He needs to find
an area he can excell in and learn to respect himself. 

Greetings
Christina



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