Why Hermione Doesn't Like Ron

[Penny & Bryce Linsenmayer]

No: HPFGUIDX 2482

Hi --

Christina Gross wrote:

> But it's being Ron's last resort that hurts her feelings. I don't
> think there's any way to put a non-personal twist on that. He takes
> her for granted and assumes that nobody else could be interested in
> her.

She'd have probably been personally hurt if *anyone* used her as a last
resort, Ron or Harry or anyone else.  I think she was pissed off that he
thought he could try to find a prettier date & then when he couldn't
that he could just ask good old Hermione, waiting in the wings.  She'd
have had the same reaction if Harry treated her that way.  Ron just
exhibited more boorish behavior than Harry.

> >Farmer in the Dell, Farmer in the Dell . . . heigh ho the derry o,
> >the >Farmer in the Dell.  . . . .
>
> Can somebody please bridge the cultural gap and tell me what this
> means?

The Farmer in the Dell Theory (mine -- dubbed so by Ebony & her
students) is that Ron likes Hermione, Hermione likes Harry, and Harry
likes either noone or someone outside the Trio.

> So Ron's way out of his identity crisis is a little woman who sits at
> his feet looking up at him with adoration? If he can't work out his
> problems for himself I doubt that is going to work. He needs to find
> an area he can excell in and learn to respect himself.

Agreed that he needs to find an area to excel in.  Is he really going to
do that if his romantic interest is constantly outshining him &
triggering his jealous insecurities at every turn?  No - I don't think
Ron needs an "adoring little woman."  But, I think his romantic partner
shouldn't be a clear superstar.  I think he should have a romance where
he & his partner are on more or less even footing.  To be second fiddle
in yet another area of his life is clearly not what Ron needs.  Or . . .
he needs to work through his problems FIRST and then try to have a
romance with a strong successful person like Hermione.  But, it won't
work unless & until he sorts things out within himself.

Penny



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