Why Hermione Doesn't Like Ron

[Susan McGee]

No: HPFGUIDX 2542

--- In HPforGrownups at egroups.com, Christina Gross <Changeling at d...> 
wrote:
> On 29.09.2000 at 07:19:33 Penny & Bryce Linsenmayer wrote:
> >  I think she was pissed off
> >that he
> >thought he could try to find a prettier date & then when he 
couldn't
> >that he could just ask good old Hermione, waiting in the wings.
> >She'd
> >have had the same reaction if Harry treated her that way.  Ron just
> >exhibited more boorish behavior than Harry.
> 
> True, as long as it was somebody she cared about who snubbed her 
like
> this. I am not eager to fix Hermione up with Ron at all cost. At 
this
> point in the story everything is still possible, nobody heads
> single-mindedly into a certain relationship, and I like it that way
> because it is more realistic. But there is a budding awareness of a
> different level of relationships.
> 
> >The Farmer in the Dell Theory (mine -- dubbed so by Ebony & her
> >students) is that Ron likes Hermione, Hermione likes Harry, and 
Harry
> >likes either noone or someone outside the Trio.
> 
> That much I figured out by myself, but I'd like to know why it was
> dubbed that and thus add another tidbit to my huge store of useless
> details that clogg up my brain and don't leave room for more useful
> knowledge. ;-)
> Is this some kind of poem or song?

It's an insipid and sexist nursery rime here in the States. It's 
sexist because it assumes farmers are all men.

1) It is true that the relationships that begin as adolescent 
bickerings sometimes end up as relationships where people fight 
bitterly with each other. This is NOT, however, an argument against
there being an incipient relationship. Hermione and Ron seem much more
invested in each other than Hermione and Harry are --- Harry kind of
checks out of some of their arguments. 

2) So, we agree that Ron is infatuated with Hermione.

3) There is no evidence that Harry is infatuated with Hermione. None.

4) I suggest that people do NOT become "oddly formal" with each other 
and that that (of all the lines) indicates that Hermione and Ron will 
end up dating/having a relationship. 

I wonder if people who insist that Hermione do not like Ron -- don't 
like Ron themselves? I like Ron quite a bit, and I think he is quite
equal to Hermione and that he will not be intimidated by her being 
prefect and/or Head Girl. Who knows? He may intellectually blossom
and become Head Boy. He certainly has the ability, just not the 
desire.

I maintain that he will become the strategist in the war against 
Voldemort and will find a place in the world different from all his 
brothers but quite outstanding.

Susan




> 
> >Agreed that he needs to find an area to excel in.  Is he really
> >going to
> >do that if his romantic interest is constantly outshining him &
> >triggering his jealous insecurities at every turn?  No - I don't
> >think
> >Ron needs an "adoring little woman."  But, I think his romantic
> >partner
> >shouldn't be a clear superstar.  I think he should have a romance
> >where
> >he & his partner are on more or less even footing.  To be second
> >fiddle
> >in yet another area of his life is clearly not what Ron needs. 
> 
> Certainly not. But I don't think Ron is able to pick a partner with
> that in mind, steer his feelings in this way, any more than he can
> give up his dream of being head boy and Quidditch star as seen in 
the
> Mirror of Erised and instead go for a brilliant career in wizard
> chess, which just isn't as prestigious as Quidditch and can't give
> him the same kind of satisfaction. I can't think of a better way to
> put it. 
> 
> Greetings
> Christina
> 
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