Lupin's relationship with Harry

[clio44a]

No: HPFGUIDX 32479

--- In HPforGrownups at y..., "mullsym255" <tracym255 at a...> wrote:
> I've recently reread PoA and there's something that's been 
bothering 
> me. Is Harry hurt that Lupin doesn't attempt to reach out to him 
like 
> Sirius has? They were both one of his dad's best friends, so does 
he 
> ever wonder why Lupin just doesn't seem to care as much? 

snip

>And just one more thing.. was Lupin ever a 
> bit miffed at James for making Sirius best man and godfather to 
> Harry? I have to say that if I were in his position, I'd be a bit 
> jealous.
> 
> Tracy


The more one thinks about the Marauders, the more interesting they 
get, don't they? IMHO they were not such a tight knit group as we 
were first made to believe in POA. 

I would like to add some thoughts to your post. You are right, it 
appears that Sirius was a 'better' best friend of James than Remus. 
If both of them were equally close friends, why didn't make James one 
of them his best man and the other one godfather? Plus Sirius was the 
first choice in being secret keeper. Did they really not trust Remus 
because he was a werewolf? He wasn't even told that Sirius and Peter 
had changed positions.
And in the famous Whomping-Willow-incident Sirius not only endangered 
Snape but also Remus. Imagine what would have happened if Remus 
really had killed or only bitten Snape. Was that only carelessness on 
Sirius part? 
We assume that Sirius and James were fast friends with Remus because 
they (and their sidekick Peter) became animagi to help him. 
Experience teaches that 3 people can't be 'best friends'. Tensions 
are inevitable. We have already seen in GOF that H/R/H have to deal 
with tensions.

Er, what was I trying to say? Ah...
I must admit, I doubt Sirius character a little bit. He surely is 
very affectionally towards Harry, but people have pointed out his 
loose-cannon mentality earlier, and I think they are right.
I wonder what James, his best friend, was like. I wouldn't be overly 
surprised if we would learn about a character flaw of James'in bk.5. 
He and Lily seem a tad bit too perfect, and Harry sure has put his 
parents on a very high pedestal. It would hurt him a lot if he 
learned that they were only human.

What we already know about James is that he wasn't that good a judge 
of character obviously. He chose Peter over Remus to be his secret 
keeper. A lethal mistake. Was there really no-one else who could have 
taken that job? What about Lily's friends? I really look forward to 
hear more about the generation of Harry's parents in the future 
books. 

Clio,
who is a bit distracted by those sparkling new Euros that ly next to 
her PC.