[HPforGrownups] Lupin's relationship with Harry

[Lily Potter]

No: HPFGUIDX 32481

mullsym255 said:
> I've recently reread PoA and there's something that's been bothering
> me. Is Harry hurt that Lupin doesn't attempt to reach out to him like
> Sirius has? They were both one of his dad's best friends, so does he
> ever wonder why Lupin just doesn't seem to care as much? Sirius sends
> Harry birthday presents and invites Harry to live with him, so why
> doesn't Lupin?

Judging from the ratty clothes that Lupin wore, he probably doesn't have any
money to buy Harry gifts with. Being a warewolf, he'd certainly have a hard
time holding a job. And he would also be fearful of changing into a warewolf
and hurting Harry, which would explain why he didn't invite Harry to live
with him. I think Lupin cares about Harry very much - hence why he spent so
much time teaching Harry how to defend himself against the Dementors. But
Lupin has to keep everyone at a distance for fear of hurting them.

> And just one more thing.. was Lupin ever a
> bit miffed at James for making Sirius best man and godfather to
> Harry? I have to say that if I were in his position, I'd be a bit
> jealous.

Possibly, but in a group of friends, it's pretty natural for each person to
have a "best friend." It doesn't mean that James didn't like the other guys,
Sirius obviously was just more special to him for whatever reason. I think
that's perfectly natural.

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