OOP : SPOILER :Harry And Cho

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No: HPFGUIDX 62241

I know people are keen to attack Cho's character and she has become 
disliked in some quarters but does anyone think that Harry's 
behaviour towards her was pretty insensitive and sometimes, downright 
ignorant?

If we see things from Cho's POV, during the Valentine's Day date (the 
most romantic, to most people, day of the year) when she wants to 
spend time with Harry after they kissed, Harry says this "yeah, well, 
she asked me to so I thought I would...D'you want to come with me? 
She said it wouldn't matter if you did?" I think that that was an an 
extremely stupid, inconsiderate, insensitive thing to say...I know 
Harry didn't set out to upset her but he didn't THINK before he said 
it...The language says it all in this...

"yeah, well, she asked me to go so I thought I would" which suggests 
that its 

A trivial, as if he's just going to meet her for a drink and nothing 
else

B suggesting that he would rather be with Hermione than Cho, "so I 
thought I would"...

and

C as if he'd drop everything for Hermione...

"she said it wouldn't matter if you did" suggests that

A He didn't say "because I want you to come" but only because 
Hermione says that its Ok...Only because Hermione wants you there, 
you can come, is what this suggests to me...

B "Wouldn't matter" suggests that Cho's not important...

C Harry does not once offer to stay with Cho for Valentine's Day...

I know he doesn't mean to hurt her with that but I can see why she is 
hurt...If a girl said to me that she was going to meet another guy on 
Valentine's Day, I know that I'd be hurt and offended...

I think that made Cho jealous, hence she mentions Roger Davies and 
then Cedric, then got very caught up in it and Harry's reaction to 
her and Cedric was insensitive, rather than suggest they talk about 
it somewhere else, he closes off the subject and laughs...From Cho's 
POV that makes Harry seem very insensitive...

And when they argued about Marietta, Harry might be loyal to his 
friends but did he ever think that Cho might be just as loyal to her 
friends? Its Ok for him to slander Cho's friend but not for her to 
say anything about Hermione...And Hermione's punishment was cruel, 
there is no doubting that...If that happened to a friend of mine, I 
wouldn't be happy with Hermione...Then Harry insulting Cho about her 
crying was childish and petty and saying "he's got better things to 
worry about" can't have made Cho feel good...

However, I think the relationship still has potential and think they 
are quite well suited...I don't take the ending, where Harry thinks 
that Cho is distant, as that he doesn't like her...I think that he is 
saddened that he can't feel at the moment as he is still in the 
grieving process about Sirius...People take his failure to register 
as a fact that he won't be in a relationship with Cho and tend to 
forget that he is still in shock and still in the grieving process 
for Sirius and probably will be for some months...Cho seemed to still 
like him at the end with her blushing...I think they can, at least, 
be friends if not romantically involved once Harry gets himself 
together...Who knows, maybe she can help him through?

Thoughts?