To Jeff (Was: Lily and James, a hpappy couple?)

[ghinghapuss]

No: HPFGUIDX 82642

Jeff said:
Ah, but did he do it on his own, of because Lily made him? If they 
were falling in love at this point, James could've done it out of 
love for her, not for anything else. If you think about it, he went 
against his best friend to save a common enemy. Only a whipped male 
would dare go against his best friend. :) I've seen this in too many 
married freinds, and it's just part of love, I guess.

No me:
First I would like to say this post is not about HP but a direct 
response to the content of the above comment.

I'm very disturbed by your use of the term "Only a whipped male would 
dare go against his best friend"  I would like to know what exactly 
you mean by that!

In any friendship, be it between the same sex like James and Sirius 
or opposing sexes like James and Lily, that union is defined by both 
parties making sacrifices for each other, respecting each others 
opinion (if not agreeing with them), doing what the other asks, 
taking advice, disagreeing, debating, loving etc, etc, etc
you get 
the point.  

Why, if James does something Sirius asks of him (as I'm sure he did 
many times) is that any different from doing something Lily asks of 
him?  He obviously loved them both as best friends and in Lily's case 
also a lover.  Why should a man doing what a woman asks of him 
somehow defined, in you opinion, as `whipped'! 

I enjoy this discussion site immensely because all those who 
contribute are intelligent and respectful in voicing their opinions.  
I ask that you please do the same.

I will entertain a single response if necessary but then we let us 
drop the subject, as it is not HP related.

Mandy.