[HPforGrownups] Re: Am I the only one

[Cindy Jenkins]

No: HPFGUIDX 95746

Neil wrote:
>"Has anyone else's opinion of Molly Weasley changed?  <snip> My
>opinion started to change in GoF and by the end of OotP, I no longer
>liked the woman.  <snip> Does anyone else feel like telling her to
>shut her mouth or is it just me?

Kneazelkid replied:
>OK, it's not just you. Molly is probably a great mother to small
>children who need everything done for them. She is terrible once
>those children start to be able to think on their own.
>snip
>Her nasty snaps at Sirius only cemented my opinion that she
>has selfish motivations (needing to feel important and in charge)
>which is why she belittles her children and other adults that she
>sees as a threat to her power. Gee, I wonder where Percy gets it?

I don't see it that way at all, and honestly, I'd be surprised if any mother
does.  Her kids are growing up.  Any idea how hard that is?  My son is
10--10!!!--but he'll always be a little kid to me.  When he gets hurt at
soccer, I panic, even if it's only a scraped knee.  And when he strikes out
at baseball, I'm crushed for him.

It isn't because I see him as a "threat" to my power, it's because he's
growing up quicker than I can keep up.  It's hard to see your babies become
kids and then adults.  Don't get me wrong; I love it.  But it is hard to let
them go, and to let them make their own mistakes.

Like Molly, I still get up and make breakfast every morning.  I want to
remind myself that they still need me.  Is that wanting to feel important?
Maybe...  But maybe it's just me wanting to be their mom.

>No, I don't have any children, but when I do I will make sure I pay
>individual attention to them and help them, not smother them and
>force them to stay attached to my apron strings so I feel important.

LOL--I always chuckle when people without kids presume to know what they'll
do with them.  Mark my words--when your baby goes off to school for the
first time, you'll cry just like the rest of us did.  Letting go is hard to
do...;)

Cindy