Sirius revisited--emotional maturity

[delwynmarch]

No: HPFGUIDX 104846


Amey wrote, about Sirius wishing in front of Remus that it was full moon:
> First question, was their friendship so formal that he needed to say 
> sorry? And just for a simple comment?

Del replies :
Being sorry and saying so has nothing to do with formality. Whether I
hurt someone I barely know or my husband (who is also my best friend),
I say sorry when I realise what I've done.

Amey wrote :
> I don't think Sirius was thinking of anything else except fun and 
> adventure full moon brought.

Del replies :
But that's *precisely* the problem !! Full moon brought *Sirius* some
fun, not Remus. Remus did *not* like the full moon periods, even if
they were easier to bear since his friends shared them with him.
It's like telling your best friend who has migraines regularly : "I
can't wait for your next migraine episode, so I can go and see that
movie that you don't want to see !" How nice is that ?

Amey wrote :
> And of course Lupin didn't take it that seriously himself.

Del replies :
He answered "darkly". I'd say it's pretty serious for Remus.

Amey wrote :
> (It's like Hermione saying she wished to see thestrals also.

Del replies :
Yep, and as soon as she realises what she's said, she apologises
profusely : I'm sorry, that was a stupid thing to say. Sirius said
nothing of the sort.

Del