[HPforGrownups] Re: SHIP Hermione & Ron /

[Barbara D. Poland-Waters]

No: HPFGUIDX 102614

Del wrote :

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And anyway, the strongest reason I don't want to see Harry with
Hermione is because Harry is not nice enough to Hermione.
1. In OoP, he shouts at her at least 3 times even though she's in the
right (once for not having written in more details to him over the
holidays, once because he thinks her DA idea is ludicrous, and once
because she refuses to admit right away that he's truly seen Sirius
being tortured). And she's too scared to fight back, which is not a
sign of a good healthy relationship.
2. Even when he doesn't shout, he's way too often scaring Hermione
into agreeing with him, even when he's wrong, like when he forces her
to say that Hagrid is a good teacher. I mean, what kind of friend
glowers at you to force you to say what they want !? How much respect
does Harry have for Hermione if he won't let her contradict him ?? And
how much does she *trust* him, if she can't get herself to speak her
mind ? She's clearly afraid of how he might react at those times, and
I don't think that fear can be a component of a loving relationship.
That wouldn't bode well for any romantic relationship they might
develop : Hermione having to agree to whatever Harry feels is
important... It's bordering on emotional abuse IMO.
3. More generally, he doesn't listen much to her counsel, he doesn't
care much about what interests her, and so on.
I love Hermione, and I just don't see what *she* would get out of a
relationship with Harry... other than troubles, that is !<<<

Now Barbara:

I don't read it that way at all. Harry was angry at the whole world in OOTP
and rightfully so IMO. I don't think Hermione was ever really afraid of him.
I think she backed down because she knew Harry was an emotional wreck, full
of anger and volatile emotions and she didn't want to make it worse. As far
as your item #3, I don't think either Ron or Harry have really shown much
interest in what interests her (her schoolwork, S.P.E.W., etc.). I'm not
really rooting for her to end up with anybody in particular, if JKR does in
fact pair them up, but I just wanted to weigh in that I don't think Harry's
anger in OOTP was directed at her particularly and I certainly don't think
she's afraid of him.

Barbara
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