SHIP: Remus/Tonks, and RL experiences

[Cat]

No: HPFGUIDX 136408

Del wrote:

> If anyone is begging, it's Lupin. His arguments are
> ridiculous: he's
> too old, too poor, too dangerous, Tonks deserves
> someone young and
> whole. Those are no arguments to oppose to *love*,
> and they
> infantilise Tonks, making her look like she doesn't
> know what's good
> for her. It's Lupin who is grasping at straws, not
> Tonks. Tonks is
> basically telling Lupin "I love you, you love me, so
> *please* stop
> playing that ridiculous game, it *hurts*", and Lupin
> is answering "I
> don't wanna leave my pity party, go away".
> 

Cat writes:

I don't think what Lupin says about himself is
ridiculous. They're all true. He is old for her, poor,
and could be dangerous. He's probably aging twice as
fast as a normal wizard, which means he won't live as
long. But being the selfless person that he is, he's
putting her happiness before his. He's thinking about
what's best for her, which you can't help but admire.
Another man in his place would've jumped at the
opportunity of being with a younger woman, putting
himself first. Let's face it. This is what usually
happens because people think about their happiness
first. But I'm happy about the Remus/Tonks union. He
really wouldn't have much of a life after Book 7, but
now that he's got a girlfriend, I don't see him dying.