I am so happy. There is a gay - Triumph & Tragedy

[va32h]

No: HPFGUIDX 178229

--- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "Catlady (Rita Prince Winston)"
<catlady at ...> wrote:
>
> --- In HPforGrownups at yahoogroups.com, "va32h" <va32h@> wrote:
> > 
> > What aspect of Tonks/Lupin is supposed to be disturbing? 
> 
> Supposed by whom? The author didn't intend it to be disturbing, but
> there are a lot of posts about how it doesn't matter what the author
> intended, only what actually got onto the page (after the editing
> process). 
> 
> I, however, *am* disturbed by it, because what is on the page looks to
> me like Lupin never loved Tonks except as a friend, never wanted to
> marry her or live with her, never wanted to have a child, and got
> dragged into all those things against his (weak) will. He never seemed
> particularly happy to be with her in public, gave no impression that
> he was happy to be getting laid regularly, tried to run away with
> Harry as an excuse to run away from her pregnancy.
>

va32h:

Supposed by the person I quoted.  Actually I agree with everything
you've said about the Tonks/Lupin relationship. 

Although I don't find the *idea* of Tonks/Lupin disturbing (just the
execution.  I am quite fond of Remus and his behavior in DH
disappointed me greatly.) and my understanding of the post I quoted
was that the idea of Tonks/Lupin was or was not as disturbing as the
idea of Grindelwald/Dumbledore.  And I couldn't figure out if that
poster thought either pairing was or was not disturbing, to be honest. 

I suppose it could be the age thing, as the post before yours suggested. 

va32h